Domestic Violence Divorce: Can You Keep
Your Support on Your Side in Your Divorce?

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Have you ever wondered why the best professional support in your divorce shows up looking great and over time projects the appearance of being weak? Even worse, they may show a bias toward your opposition. It appears to you that they don’t want to ruffle the feathers of opposing counsel.

You wonder what made them flip, and why they are not able/willing to provide you with the support you grew accustomed to receiving from them.

Here’s why...

a) They did come into your case with good intentions. That is, they wanted to be your therapist, your consultant, your witness. And things did indeed start out well.

b) Your opposition would prefer that you not have individuals in place that actually support you and your plight. Just as he sought to limit your contact with individuals that he was unable to control while in your marriage, so will it be in your divorce.

c) Opposing counsel’s manipulation of your “players” is part of his/her strategy to carry out the agenda of their client. It’s their job to manage all variables that interfere with their delivering the expected outcome for their client.

Given this, then how do you secure and hold onto support that can/will support you and your cause for the duration of your divorce...that is, until you obtain the closure you seek?

You would serve yourself far better by answering this question than focusing on all those people that have flipped and betrayed you along the way. See your battle as just that: a battle. Rise above the interpersonal dynamics and seek to grasp the larger strategies in play.

If you recognize your need to better understand domestic violence divorce, you may want to read Legal Domestic Abuse: How to Successfully Navigate the System. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D> helps people recognize and end family violence and legal abuse.

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