Domestic Violence Treatment
Domestic Abuse Intervention in the Context of Relationship Therapy
by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
There are people who have been on our email list since its inception nearly five years ago. Many of these faithful readers are deeply rooted in the battered women’s movement. Some have asked, “Why are you trying to help people ‘fix’ relationships that many people urge you to flee?”
I say, “excellent question.” The answer has more to do with my getting back to who and what I am. It has more to do with the fact that we have refocused our business to being the vehicle for making our most seasoned and sophisticated skills available to individuals in abusive relationships.
We are by profession, practice and expertise healers first. Our belief is that people, at the core of their being, have the capacity for change. Every person in an abusive relationship, whether they are the abuser or abused, can influence the dynamics of the relationship. Now this doesn’t mean to imply that domestic abuse survivors are responsible for the battering or even have the ability to end the abuse perpetuated upon them.
What it does mean is that many batterers (at least the ones we see) have an innate potential for refocusing and thus reinventing themselves, their relationships and their lives. And domestic abuse victims, too, have this same ability, which recreates their destiny with respect to their intimate relationship and beyond.
Letting Go of Domestic Abuse before It Spirals Out of Control
So it’s not that we are saying, “Hang onto your abuser.” Heck, no! We want to help people break the cycle of domestic violence from the inside out...one relationship at a time. We know that without doing this, the habits of domestic violence will merely show up in the next relationship by both parties playing out the familiar relationship patterns that caused destructive conflict and violence in the first place.
Our higher interest in domestic violence work is prevention. When we can help people interrupt the abuse dynamic, we prevent the inevitable evolution of domestic abuse spreading throughout our communities...throughout society, at large.
Domestic Violence Treatment and Relationship Therapy
We understand that some intimate relationships are simply not meant to be. And we trust that people will determine what’s right for them as they transform themselves and their interaction habits. They can choose to stay together or not. They can work individually or jointly in domestic violence treatment, as well.
We seek to support people in creating relationships that work for them...support them...make them better than they are, not less than they are. Our commitment is to wholeness and harmony, and that is the basis of our work in domestic violence counseling.
As of late we have been calling this work, when done conjointly, “abusive relationship therapy.” At the root of the intervention is therapy and the abusive relationship becomes the patient.
Be it known that this is not marital therapy or couples counseling: rather, it is domestic abuse treatment in the context of relationship therapy. I trust this clarifies our intent and commitment to helping people in abusive relationships through effective therapeutic process.
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