Spousal Emotional Abuse --
Spirit Breaking in Abusive Relationships

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Some people think that emotional abuse is vague. They say it’s hard to define, hard to identify and simply can’t be seen. Not so!

Emotional abuse is as clear as your feelings when they are felt. It’s the smothering of or dismantling of your inner well-being, your self-inspired passions, your inner knowing of what is true for you.

You know when it’s happening by the impact it has on your inner world. You may even be aware of the behaviors associated with it when it’s in play.

For most people, what’s unknown is how to stop it and how to recover from spirit-breaking, emotional and mental abuse.

Here are some things you will want to know to best recognize, cope and heal from spousal emotional abuse.

1) It is not about you.

Emotional abuse is always about the person dishing it out. It comes from a place of vulnerability, irritability or both.

2) It’s not yours to control.

The emotional abuser owns, operates and controls his/her emotional battering. While you may be led to believe that you caused it and thereby are responsible for preventing it, it’s not yours to control.

3) Its impact is what you control.

What you do control is the impact it has on you. You control the way you interpret it, the way you process it and the way it lives in you.

If you are a victim of spousal emotional abuse, you will want to know all you can about the silent insidious beast before you allow it to define you. The sooner you do, the more quickly you will find your inner well of well-being and the better you will become at maintaining its peace.

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