Psychologists and Attorneys – Friends or Foe
When Domestic Violence Is in Family Court?

Dr. King

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

“My husband’s attorney doesn’t like you,” she said. And she said it as though it almost mattered. Or, shall I say, as though it disturbed her.

I thought, “If I am doing good by you and for you, he won't like me.” The attorney (that is opposing counsel) is actually an extension of the batterer and of the abuse dynamic.

When you were “happily” married, your partner would put down your friends, right? This was done to cast doubt in you, so you’d distance yourself from your friends. It is a tactic used to isolate you from all other sources of support.

So when opposing counsel asks, “Why do you have to have a psychologist that's in another state?” Here's what you should think to yourself, "He's not supposed to like my psychologist, if my psychologist is truly working for me."

What we see, when domestic violence is in divorce court, is the abuser’s attorney will work collaboratively under the table with the psychologist of the victim. In the collaboration between counsel and mental health care provider, there can be “evidence” forthcoming that can be used to substantiate that the victim is mentally unstable, and therefore not a candidate for custody.

This so-called collaboration can happen in an email, in a brief phone conversation, in a meeting face-to-face, through a third-party... If your psychologist, however, is unwilling to have contact with opposing counsel, chances are there will be no collaboration. And opposing counsel will feel as though he or she is not playing ball with him/her.

So the bottom line here is, if opposing counsel suggests that he or she doesn't like your psychologist, you have a psychologist that you best not let go of. You have a psychologist who is protecting your mental health and who will work to prevent opposing counsel from using your mental health as cause to put distance between you and your children.

For more information about legal-psychiatric abuse in divorce, and claim your Free Instant Access to Survivor Success eInsights. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D helps people end domestic abuse at home and in family court. Copyright 2009 Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. – Domestic Violence Prevention and Intervention

This series of eInsights is presented to you by Partners in Prevention, a nonprofit organization. If you find this eInsight article useful, we invite you to contribute to the maintenance and growth of the Survivor Success Tips & eInsights. To make a tax-deductible donation, please visit

Dr. Jeanne King is a licensed psychologist and domestic abuse consultant. Feel free to contact us if you need help with physical and/or emotional pain, stress-related illnesses, or relationship abuse issues at home or in court. Contact Us to reach Dr. King.