Domestic Violence and Divorce:
Who Holds the Key to Your Mental Health?
by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
The mental health of battered women is usually determined by their perpetrators. And once officially declared “crazy,” these women tear their hair out and cry.
Their tears are in direct proportion to the punishment and consequences attached to their “insanity.” For most, this is contact with their children.
Establishing their mental illness, whether real or fabricated, becomes the grounds for the life decisions that come from higher up. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Here are some steps you will want to take to insure that you hold the reigns to your mental health.
1) Pick you own mental health professional, even if one has already been assigned by the court.
2) Take responsibility for funding your mental health service from resources that you yourself control.
3) If the cost of the healthcare service is covered by your insurance, do not let someone else take care of obtaining your re-imbursement for you.
4) Hold on to your privilege, as once given away, you will not get it back. Keep your privileged communication with your mental healthcare provider sacred.
If battered women followed the above guidelines for holding the key to their mental health, we’d have far less mental illness among the abused. My sense is they don’t take these steps because they are accustomed to being controlled and defined by others.
If you really want to break the cycle of domestic abuse during your divorce, hold on to your mental health. Because once you lose your marbles publicly, you will struggle with holding on to them personally.
For more information about domestic violence and divorce, read Crazy Making Legal-Psychiatric Abuse. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps domestic abuse survivors combat allegations of mental illness and improper psychiatric labeling. http://www.enddomesticabuse.org/crazy_making.php Copyright 2009 Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. – Domestic Violence Prevention and Intervention
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