Legal Domestic Abuse – Holding It Together,
When Everything Is Falling Apart

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

If you are leaving a batterer and find yourself in family court, you may be asking yourself this question. How do I hold it together when everything is falling apart?

Whether you initiated your divorce proceedings or not, you wonder how can things be getting worse when you expected remedy for the abuse you have endured.Whether you initiated your divorce proceedings or not, you wonder how can things be getting worse when you expected remedy for the abuse you have endured.

Your stroll down divorce lane is not a walk in the park when your opponent is an abuser. That’s just the reality of the beast.

Here are some things you can do to hold it together when everything is falling apart.

1) You must get rest everyday to weather this storm. There is no room for sleepless nights. So you will want to implement health supporting sleep habits, like: day time exercise, early to bed, don’t eat after 8:00, warm evening bath, keep work and legal matters out of the bedroom...

2) Nourish your body with life-supporting foods. If you let your cells spin off, you will go in the direction your opponent seeks for you to end up—depleted and resource-less. Keep your diet wholesome, fresh and unprocessed.

3) Focus on what you can control and make every moment matter. You are what you think and you get what you focus on, so guard your thoughts. They are the blueprint of your destiny. And believe it or not, you can control your thinking.

4) Don’t go it alone. (Having an attorney does NOT mean you are not alone.) Find a knowledgeable psychiatric/domestic abuse consultant to help you understand how the system works. You must learn to navigate the legal/healthcare system so it supports you rather then defeats you. Chances are this knowledge was not a part of your education, or your parent’s life lessons.

You are not the first, or the only, person in this tornado of spousal abuse transforming itself into legal abuse. There is a lot you can learn from others who have walked in your shoes. Keep your eyes open and remain a student of life, always knowing this too will pass and you can prevail.

For more information about spousal legal abuse, visit http://www.preventabusiverelationships.com/legal_domestic_abuse.php and claim your Free Instant Access to Survivor Success eInsights. Psychologist Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps domestic abuse survivors block legal-psychiatric abuse in divorce and custody cases nationwide. Copyright 2009 Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. – Domestic Violence Prevention and Intervention

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