Battered Women in Divorce Court Ė
5 Lessons to Overcome Abuse and Divorce
by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Iím frequently approached by people who say they want to help battered women in divorce court struggling over the threat of losing custody of their children.
These people have the purest of intentions. What they may be missing is the plan.
I hear things like:
a) We need to increase awareness about the failings of the system. Or,
b) We need to help these women recover from the abuse of the courts and the transgressions of the court agents.
This looks good in theory and feels good in gesture. However, I believe teaching them how to swim before they start drowning in the downward spiral of legal domestic and legal psychiatric abuse would be most useful for these battered women.
Here are some facts that will help you deal with abuse and divorce, as you enter the school of hard knocks and the court of confusion.
1) Everything here on is under scrutiny, so be on your best behavior.
2) Yes, there are rules and you must follow them to stay afloat.
3) You and only you are the keeper of your temple, so donít give away the key to your soul.
4) You must realize that chores will need to be done and these housekeeping and record keeping chores are your responsibility.
5) What goes on in this game is not what you say or what he says; rather itís what the court record says.
These basic lessons will help you tremendously if your embrace them to their fullest. This is the fight of your life, the trial of your strength.
You do not have to do this alone. And having an attorney does NOT mean you are not alone. You are alone until you have an advocate outside of the network of the system...outside of the jurisdiction of your caseís home state.
If I could leave you with just one word of wisdom, it would be this: You are in a system. You MUST learn to properly navigate the system.
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