Battered Women after the Abusive Relationship:
Finding Princes, Frogs and Financial
Self-Sufficiency

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Are you waiting for Mr. Right to come and salvage you out from your poverty? Or, would you prefer to pick yourself up, salvage yourself financially, and then meet Mr. Right?

Here are the benefits of doing it the second way.

A) When you go from an abusive relationship immediately into another relationship, chances are pretty high that a financial dependency will be established quickly and reflexively.

It’s natural. Let’s face it. If you have been accustomed to someone else taking control and being responsible for all of life’s physical and financial details, chances are you will look to have the same in your new relationship—even if this prince charming is not a batterer.

If he is a batterer and you haven’t figured out the initial warning signs AND you have not healed from within, then you are lame duck for another abusive relationship. And in this, trust that the dependencies and control will not be just financial.

But, giving you the benefit of the doubt, let’s say he is not a batterer. While this won’t be as dangerous to your psyche, as being dependent on an abuser for your survival, it does carry some potential limitations with respect to your overall personal confidence and mending from your history of being abused.

B) If, on the other hand, you seek to pick up the pieces and bite the bullet, you can become educated in the matters of physical and financial security that you have either chosen to ignore or have been denied the privilege of embracing.

It will amaze you to see how even you can put your brain around the complexities of finance AND enjoy it. You heard me. Yes, I said enjoy it. It is an absolute pleasure to know how economic sustenance comes to you, what you need, how to leverage it, how to manage it, and how to make it grow and work for you.

And trust me, this can be yours. Once mission accomplished and you are supporting yourself financially, then your attractions will be just that—romantic attractions, not financial dependencies.

For more information on becoming financially self-sufficient after your abusive relationship, visit: www.EndDomesticAbuse.org/affiliates.php. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps battered women worldwide heal from abusive relationships. Copyright 2009 Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. – Domestic Violence Prevention and Intervention

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