Domestic Abuse Therapy – 5 Indicators of Successful Outcome in Therapy

Domestic Abuse Therapy
5 Indicators of Successful Outcome in Therapy

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by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

People worldwide ask the question: How do I know if my partner will change? You don’t. You can’t really know what someone else is going to do.

But you can know the indicators for a good prognosis in therapy. You can know the parameters for probable successful outcome in domestic abuse treatment.

5 Indicators of Successful Outcome in Therapy

1) High Stakes

If you and your partner have much at stake, both of you are far more likely to engage in breaking the cycle of abuse. The patterns of abusive interaction will be more self-evident and the mere time invested in the relationship motivates changing the obvious wallpaper of violation surrounding both of you.

2) Supportive network

If the people in his/her personal life support accountability and salvaging the relationship, then you can expect greater compliance in contrast to those who are encouraged to externalize fault and blame.

Granted there is a tendency for batterers to blame their victimized partners for the mishaps in their lives. But when that throwing off of any personal accountability is magnified by the support network, it can compromise successful engagement in therapy.

3) Feeling Your Pain

Perpetrators who stop and stand in the place of the abused person’s pain are far more likely to rehabilitate successfully. This concept of empathically embracing the experiential impact of one’s actions upon another is a key component in healing domestic violence abuse.

You may believe that your partner is completely incapable of experiencing your emotional experience. However—in your absence outside of the abuse dynamic—some batterers feel the impact of their assault as though they were standing in their partner's shoes.

4) Personal Sensitivity

Personal sensitivity to one’s own experience is another indicator of successful outcome in therapy. Individuals who show a willingness to engage in self-inquiry, and evidence the capacity to hear and feel their inner most longings are more likely to succeed in abuse therapy.

5) Corrections Component

Some people are convinced that going to “the blue” provokes the abuse spiraling out of control. Others believe that the influence of law enforcement and corrections lends an added edge toward motivating change in domestic abusers. If the police have stepped in and charges are pending, consider using the combination of corrections and therapy to inspire and facilitate change.

As you become familiar with the factors impacting successful outcome, you can more accurately answer the question: will my partner change? For more information about controlling abusive relationships, visit and claim Free Instant Access the 7 Realities of Verbal Abuse. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps people nationwide recognize, end and heal from domestic abuse.

© Jeanne King, Ph.D. — Domestic Violence Prevention and Intervention

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