Divorce and Abuse: 3 Secrets to
Successfully Navigating the System
by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Battered women often think the courts ďdonít get it,Ē when the fact is they themselves donít get it. I receive calls from domestic abuse survivors, who are in most cases also protective parents, and they so desperately long for the ďsystemĒ to recognize, appreciate and stop their batterers from using the system to continue battering them.
They truly believe that the court and lawyers donít understand the dynamics of abuse. But, the fact is that the court and the attorneys donít only understand it, they are masters at using these very dynamics to their own advantage.
Abuse is about control and the helping legal agents become the control agents containing the abused, and the rest becomes your history...unless you know what to look for and how to avert their ploys.
Here are some essential, basic things to be mindful of in order to hold your own and increase your success in divorce court.
1) You must always have a complete record containing all documentation: all court orders, all pleadings and all evidence.
2) You must follow the court orders, as long as you are under the jurisdiction of the court, so as to avoid other consequences for failure to comply.
3) You must know your legal rights, your civil rights, your parental rights and never assume others automatically operate from the position of protecting these rights.
If you are a domestic abuse survivor in divorce court, you will best serve yourself and your children if you do your homework, keep your records in order and know your rights along the way.
For more information on divorce and abuse, see Legal Domestic Abuse: How to Successfully Navigate the System. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps domestic abuse survivors navigate the system successfully.
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