Abusive Relationships -
Domestic Abuse and the Money Factor
by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Common thinking is that intimate partner abuse happens to the poor. It occurs in the lower socioeconomic classes. Itís a syndrome that afflicts the unemployed, the uneducated, the underprivileged... But the fact is, it crosses all boundaries.
You can be black, white, yellow, rich, poor, educated, uneducated, fat, thin, pretty, ugly, professional, blue collar... You can be of any religious orientation, on any diet. Itís not about your class or your lifestyle; itís about CONTROL.
I liken its far-reaching incidence to perspiration. The rich sweat just as do the poor; only difference is they may do it enclosed in saunas. The fact is they have sweat pores too, and their physiology is the same as their less privileged counterpart.
Abuse and Control as a Human Condition
The tendency toward controlling your intimate partner is a human condition, not a social or economic condition. It is a psychosocial addiction to control. Itís an excessive compulsion to own, possess and overpower oneís love objects.
Itís about finding oneís contentment and personal well-being in oneís ability to successfully regulate oneís ďloveĒ partner, over regulating oneself. And moreoverÖover honoring oneís intimate partner.
Domestic Abuse and Financial Strain
That being said, it is also true that financial strain does create stress, which exacerbates violence. So we can expect to see an increase in the episodes of relationship abuse for those with a predisposition for intimate partner violence under economic strain.
If you live this syndrome of domestic abuse, you know this to be true. If you are an outsider looking in, look closer at your wealthy friends. Chances are you will notice as many abusive relationships among the rich as among the poor.
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