Domestic Abuse Survivor Tips:
The 3 Keys to Thriving after Domestic Abuse

Dr. King

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

When domestic abuse survivors fall into a slump, they can become the beaten down person they where in the abusive relationship. Here are your 3 keys to thriving after domestic abuse.

When that happens, nip it in the bud. In the same way that you may quash a cold coming at its early onset (at the very first sign of it coming on), you arrest its progression.

How to Nip It in the Bud

Be in and come from pure positive energy

Come to know the experience of time stopping and inner elevated calm emerging from within. Let this be the wallpaper mood of your day. Acknowledge it when itís there and inspire it when itís not.

Choose to be centered over being right

Sometimes our struggles evolve from circumstances beyond our control. And when we struggle against it, we only enhance our struggle. Whereas, if we choose to be centered rather than being right, we move out and away from the struggle. And from here, no battle ensues.

Do what you love and the money will follow

When you do what you love, you become centered and the pure positive energy abounds. And the more you do it, the more and more it keeps creeping in, showing up and occupying your day, your days and before you know it, your life.

If you are a domestic abuse survivor and you bump up against your own inner demons, stop and say NEXT. By merely noticing the demon for what it is and deciding to intentionally set it down, walk away, refuse to give it any more energy, it subsidesÖand ultimately can let go of you.

For more information on well-being and healing after an abusive relationship, I invite you to check out Psychological Healing for Domestic Abuse. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps people recognize, end and heal from domestic abuse.

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©2009 Jeanne King, Ph.D.

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