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Domestic Violence Healing Thoughts:

You Are the Manager of Your Mental Chatter

domestic violence consulting expert


By Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.


Mind matters, no matter what you think. What we think is what we draw onto ourselves. Our thoughts are truly magnets.


Often we have, and hold onto, thoughts that don’t serve us and in fact bring us just the opposite of what we desire. Yet, we continue harboring such thinking.


While of course this is naturally human, be mindful of the way in which it can, and will, trick you up every time. That I promise.


If you are a domestic abuse survivor and you think and feel the words and feelings showered upon you by your current or former perpetrator, what might you expect from that?


Think about it. You can and will bring onto yourself the creation...the manifestation of those thoughts. Ouch!


So how do you change your thoughts? We know that simply saying to ourselves NOT to think such and such only makes us think about it more and more... It’s like saying don’t think about an elephant. (Now what’s on your mind?)


Rather than you letting go of the thought, imagine if it let go of you. In my own healing after my nightmare run in with family violence and the legal abuse syndrome, I discovered a process that is a razor sharp way to change unwanted thinking.


You may have heard me talk about The Work by Byron Katie. It’s actually a very straight forward process that helps you let go of thoughts that don’t serve you; that is, thoughts that don't serve your highest good. Actually you don’t let go of the thoughts; the thoughts let go of you.


If you are struggling with thoughts that run you down, put those thoughts to inquiry until they let go of you. And under that block of thought will be a more authentic YOU.

...The YOU that supports your highest truth. If you want help with troubling thoughts, feel free to Contact Us for Healing after the Abuse. Dr. Jeanne King helps domestic violence survivors and their advocates, recognize, end and heal the aftermath of abusive relationships. For more healing insights, claim your free Survivor Success Tips and eInsights. 

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©Copyright 2008 Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.


Dr. Jeanne King is a licensed psychologist and domestic abuse consultant. Feel free to contact us if you need help with physical and/or emotional pain, stress-related illnesses, or relationship abuse issues at home or in court. Contact Us to reach Dr. King.