Abuse and Divorce -
The Court Record Is the Holy Grail
by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Domestic abuse survivors in divorce court are ever so concerned about campaigning their cause to protect their children and themselves.
While this is expected, it happens that their method often undermines their mission--leaving them at the mercy of their opposition.
Battered Women Blowing Their Horn to Campaign Their Cause
They thrust every ounce of their energy into articulating their side of the story, thinking that if you just hear it from their perspective, then you will see the rightness that they are.
The passion they fuel their delivery with is ever so compelling. As you listen from the outside in, you so want to embrace and support them.
The Court Record Is a Better Horn to Campaign Their Cause
But this is not what wins their case. It’s not about “her story.” It’s not about “his story.” It’s about the story that the court record reveals.
It is for this reason that I say, “The court record is the holy grail!” It is the composite from which all else is told. It is the sculpture defining opinions and creating destinies.
Yet, this most important piece of their case is what is most often ignored. It is as though battered women regard the court paper trail as the afterthought, rather than the case-making forethought.
If you are a domestic abuse survivor in divorce court, you will want to learn all you can about how to keep your court record pristine. The truths this record reveals and the patterns it portrays must reflect your truth.
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