Therapy During Your Domestic Violence
Divorce and Custody Battle

Dr. King

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Battered women in custody disputes are often eager to let you know everything that their soon-to-be ex is doing wrong with the children and what wonderful parents they themselves are.

This is natural as is the preparation for any Judgment Day that really matters. And let’s face it, what matters most to these women is their children and their relationship with their children.

But when that “best foot forward” takes precedent over being authentic, one begins to wonder who they really are. Are they victims that are haunted by fear of their perception of their batterer’s omnipotence? Or, are they sitting on some aspect of themselves that they simply don’t want revealed?

If you are a battered woman in divorce court, you will best benefit yourself, your children and the outcome of your case if you do the following in your own therapy...

1) Don’t focus on what your soon-to-be ex-partner is doing. Let the focus be about you.

2) Don’t overly boast about your strengths and fine parenting, as no one goes into therapy because all is well…and your therapist will wonder what’s behind that.

3) Don’t forget to use the therapeutic process to authentically benefit your personal growth, as this will demonstrate your capacity to weather life’s challenges.

This may be your biggest contest and the fight of your life. So make your therapy work for you, not work against you.

Find a therapist that understands domestic abuse dynamics and who also is familiar with the issues and politics of domestic violence divorce and custody. And use the therapy to enrich yourself by addressing what challenges, troubles and concerns you.

For more information about domestic violence and child custody, become familiar with legal domestic abuse and crazy making legal-psychiatric ploys. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps people heal from domestic abuse and successfully navigate the system.

Copyright 2009 Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved.

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