Domestic Violence Counseling
How to Select Help for Domestic Abuse

Dr. King

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

“My spouse has been abusing me for years, and now I have reached a breaking point. I drew the line in the sand and said, ‘That’s it, no more!’ I have insisted that we seek help for our relationship problems.”

If you are in an abusive relationship, I trust you know these thoughts and feelings. You may have even taken it to the next step...

“My husband and I found a counselor who claims that he knows about abuse, and now we are in therapy. My only hope is that the therapist will know how to treat domestic violence.”

If you and your spouse have started a treatment regimen for domestic abuse and he is talking with anyone who is not a certified domestic violence interventionist, then you have given yourself false hope.

The best analogy I can give you for this is when you have a need for a complex root canal and you go to your general dentist and he/she says, “Yes, I can help you with that.” But, the fact is that what you really need is an endodontist, skilled in sophisticated root canals and oral surgery.

Choosing a Domestic Violence Treatment Intervention

How do you select an appropriate domestic violence intervention to help you end spousal abuse and save your marriage?

A) You could talk with a mental health professional skilled in relationship issues and hope that they have legitimate expertise in the dynamics of intimate partner abuse.

B) You could visit your local domestic violence agency and hope that there is someone on staff equipped to deal with the psychological issues inherent in healing relationship abuse.

C) Or, you could find a professional that has both psychological and domestic violence expertise. The choice is yours.

What is most important for you to realize is that you cannot go to one professional and expect the work of another, and you certainly can’t expect to get results from a different specialization. This is the most common error in selecting abusive relationship help.

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