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Family Violence - 3 Keys to Picking Up the Pieces after the Storm of Legal Domestic Abuse

domestic violence consulting expert


By Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.


When children go away to college and get away from “who and what” the controlling family members want them to be, a window opens up. What they discover is their essence. Now here’s the gem...

That essence is a composite of their formative years. If you were in their lives during this time, good chance you can slip back in and they can be in yours.


There are some key things you will want to do and things you’ll be best avoiding in order to rekindle your relationship with your children if you are an estranged parent.


1) Focus on what you have, and what you had, with them; not what you don’t have or what you missed. To help you maintain this focus, find points of shared sweet sentiment and build out from here.


2) Trust that they don’t need to understand all the elements surrounding your absence to feel their love for you and yours for them. It is already there. Always know these so-called “elements” of your story must be digested as they can be assimilated...and not a moment before.


3) Don’t expect them to give you back what you lost. They can’t. They don’t hold what you lost, as they lost it too.


If you are reading this, I assume you are (or know) a battered mother who weathered or is battling the system to secure justice for yourself and your children.


On this note, I leave you with the following in closing. It was never about them anyway. Rather, it’s about you and the strength you bring to the table to endure the challenges before you.

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