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By Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Family court can feel like a biblical stone-age blur if you’re naive to the workings of the system when there is domestic violence and divorce before the court.
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The biblical story most fitting to this is as follows...
There was a woman who had a baby. And one night while sleeping with her baby next to her side, she rolled over onto her baby. Sadly, her baby died.
In her desperation she took another woman’s baby, claiming it to be her own...actually insisting this infant was her own.
The two women fought over the baby on and on bringing attention of their dispute to King Solomon. King Solomon declared, I’ll settle this once and for all!
He told his aid to fetch a knife as the women continued each insisting the baby to be theirs. King Solomon reached for the knife and said, “We shall cut the baby in half.”
And as he brought the knife over head ready to split the baby in two, one woman shouted, “No, King Solomon,” “No, please don’t cut the baby...don’t hurt the baby...give the baby to her!”
King Solomon stopped cold, bringing down the knife and said, “You are the mother of this infant baby.” And he gave the baby to her.
Domestic violence, divorce court and you
If you have ever been in family court in which there is court-documented child abuse and/or spousal abuse, moderate to significant family money (only accessible to the perpetrator), and the possibly of some politics, then you may know this story from the inside out.
More often than not, there are two exit doors in this nightmare: a) you cooperate and comply with fracturing your child, or b) you walk away and leave your minor child whole (at least in that moment).
However, on the other hand, if you wish to walk away with your baby whole and in your arms, you must play your hand wisely and know the ropes before matters spiral out of control.
Click here for more information on domestic violence and child custody. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D., founding director of Partners in Prevention, helps people recognize, end and heal from abusive relationships at home and in court.
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