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Abusive Relationship Health Tip: How to Keep the Weight Off and On While in an Abusive Relationship

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By Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.


Some people lose weight and get real skinny when they are being abused; others gain weight and become fat.

During my ordeal with family violence, I become so emaciated that people said I looked like I was from a third world country. No, I was just missing meal after meal while on a legal-stalking paper chase.

Both excessive loss of weight and excessive weight gain have unhealthy consequences and compromise your stability when you need it most.

Here are some eating tips to insure that you manage your weight while in, and after, an abusive relationship.

1) Eat when you are hungry. On a hunger gauge from 0 being empty to 100 being Thanksgiving full, eat when your inner hunger is about 25.

2) Stop eating when you are full. Using the same hunger gauge, pull away from the table, or remove your plate from in front of you, when you are at about 75.

3) Eliminate processed food from your diet and move to unprocessed whole foods (fruits, vegetables, nuts, legumes, have heard it over and over.)

4) Whenever possible cook your own meals and allow the digestive process to begin by the sites and smells of your cooking and meal preparations.

5) Leftovers are okay one meal after…and beyond that are best in the garbage.

6) Remove the salt from the table, and keep canned sodas off the table and out of your diet as much as possible.

7) After dark, keep it light. Avoid heavy foods and those that are high in protein late in the evening.

8) This one is from Deepak Chopra, MD. While on retreat he’d say, your ideal amount to consume at mealtime is equal to what you can hold in the palms of you hands cupped together.

Let these eight eating tips into your life, and your weight will be stable as your body supports you during the rocky road of an abusive relationship.

You and your body will be happy that you did. For more, healing insights for domestic abuse survivors, see Psychological Healing for Domestic Abuse and Domestic Abuse Healing from Within.

If you want help during this difficult time, feel free to contact us at Contact Us for Healing after the Abuse . Dr. Jeanne King helps domestic violence survivors and their advocates, recognize, end and heal the aftermath of abusive relationships.

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©Copyright 2008 Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.


Dr. Jeanne King is a licensed psychologist and domestic abuse consultant. Feel free to contact us if you need help with physical and/or emotional pain, stress-related illnesses, or relationship abuse issues at home or in court. Contact Us to reach Dr. King.