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Intimate Partner Abuse Screen




Daughter's Abusive Relationship - Isolation in Abusive Relationships

domestic violence consulting expert



By Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.


“I haven’t seen my grandchildren for three years...and a third has arrived whom we’ve (my husband and I) never met,” said a distraught woman.

Convinced that her adult child is in an abusive relationship, she fears for her daughter’s life and the lives of her grandchildren.


With this kind of fear under normal circumstances, she would have burst in to assist her endangered child. Yet with this, she has not.


She says, “I feel powerless to penetrate the barrier of distance he fostered, isolating our child from us and all of her childhood friends.”


What can a parent do under these circumstances?


Strategically plan for the safety of your child and grandchildren. And find a way to guide her into opening up to the plan.


Now your first thought, as you’re reading this, is how will we ever get her to see the light? She is in denial over his abuse even though I am the person she came to, distressed over it years ago.


What often happens in this scenario is that the abusive son-in-law will do whatever is necessary to prevent his entrapped partner from running back to her parents. He’ll brainwash her into believing that her parents aren’t good for her. He will convince his partner either openly, or indirectly, that her parents will interfere with and ruin their lives.


Again, how do we get her to see the light?


So obviously, now the job of getting the abused daughter has magnified manifold. And you’re still asking the question, how do we get to her to see the light?


If you recognize yourself in this predicament, seek to understand the dynamics of abusive relationships. Learn as much as you can and become as proactive as is possible before the insidious syndrome of domestic violence spirals out of control.


For more information about helping a loved one in an abusive relationship, see Stop Domestic Abuse: Helping Others Break the Cycle. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. is founding director of Partners in Prevention, dedicated to helping domestic abuse survivors and their advocates to end domestic abuse.


If you want personal help with your particular circumstances, you can contact us to set up an individual consultation.

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©Copyright 2008 Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Dr. Jeanne King is a licensed psychologist and domestic abuse consultant. Feel free to contact us if you need help with physical and/or emotional pain, stress-related illnesses, or relationship abuse issues at home or in court. Contact Us to reach Dr. King.